An amazing amount of power is contained in the words we speak.
You idiot! Can’t you do anything right? Go away! I never want to see you again. You are so lazy. I hate you! You are worthless. That was a dumb thing to say. What a loser. All you ever do is make a mess. You’ll never amount to anything. I can’t wait till you move out.
Hi friend. I love you. Good night. Your children are so well behaved. You did excellent work. You are so smart. Thank you! I can always depend on you. You are so much fun to be with. That was an excellent speech. I can’t wait to see you again. Your baby is gorgeous. You are so thoughtful. What a nice thing to do.
The words we speak have an impact on those they are directed toward. We can be a friend and blessing to someone, or, we can be an enemy causing lasting damage. When having a bad day or in the heat of anger it is easy to say hurtful words. Whether or not we mean the words spoken there is always an effect – even if we apologize later. The words we speak take root in the mind of those who hear them. For some, our hurtful words may be a scratch. They hear the words we speak but knowing them to be untrue are able to move on with their day. For others, our words are a knife wound cutting deep and causing much pain. They are not able to move beyond the words. They may have been hurt often throughout their life making them unable to push our words away. Walking away they take those words home to be thought over at supper, as they lay down for bed those same words swirl around in the darkness taunting and sneering. Words so carelessly spoken in the heat of anger, frustration, or even irritation digging deep and rooting themselves in the mind of the hearer.
It is always good policy to take a moment to think over what is about to be said. Once spoken words can never be unspoken. True, we can apologize for the hurtful things we say; however, the words we spoke will still ring in the ears of the hearer. It is far better to close the mouth and walk away, allowing time to calm down, to consider how to deal with an issue, than it is to shout out whatever words come to mind in the heat of the moment.
While hurtful words can easily cause damage kind words can just as easily encourage another. It does not take much to be kind, to speak an encouraging word. As it is said in Proverbs 16:24 KJV “Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.” A pleasant word is sweet to the soul. To encourage and uplift another speak pleasant and kind words. Ephesians 4:29 KJV “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” With our words we can edify others, something we aught to desire and put into practice.
As we go about our day let us take time to consider the words we speak and endeavor not to harm but to encourage.